I get emotionally stuck quite easily, especially when I was young.
I didn’t really know that I am sensitive, and I didn’t learn how to feel and be responsible for my emotions. For example, after watching a movie, sometimes I got depressed for next few days. When my boss gave me some negative feedbacks for my work, I got upset and kept upsetting until next morning even after a night sleep. I have countless examples of my stuck emotions lol. It was difficult for myself as well as my friends and co-workers, I believe.
Those are natural consequences when seeing it from energetics, so nothing wrong with them. But I really wanted to be easy with my emotions and be gentle for people around me, and emotions are one of my curiosities for a long time.
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Emotions arise from nowhere. But still, it’s a reaction to the information that comes from outside, so I believe basic structure is similar to food or information. Eat, digest, and eliminate.
The tricky part of the emotions is that it is unseen like the air, hard to tell which is whose, and once we are in the emotional storm, it is hard to tell we are in the storm. To look at emotions is like looking at a car from the bird view while driving the car. It sounds hard, but I found that there are things we can do. :)
My first tip is to create emotional check points. To realize the change in emotion, it is helpful to aware the emotion before the change. When we are in a 80F room and moving to a 55F room, we notice the room is cooler than the first one. It’s like that. I cannot catch my emotion when I am in my emotional storm without the awareness. So, paying attention to emotions regularly helps. Asking myself how do I feel now? Am I irritated? Am I angry? Or something like that.
The checking points can be when waking up, before going to bed, or I guess setting timer may work. :)
Once getting used to checking emotions, it’s fun to pay attention to the emotions before entering new spaces such as someone’s house, shops, or seeing a friend. I get surprised quite often how much my feeling changes before and after.
The other way that is helpful for me is finding habits which are related to specific emotions. For example, when I get irritated, I cook quite roughly, and my driving gets rough too. Lol When I could catch those habits, then I can witness that I am irritated and take actions that is manageable with the emotion.
If I get emotional with someone, I mean if I can catch it, I leave the space and take a fresh air. It is like closing book, and there will be more space in the heart. It’s great to take a deep breath and remember the own rhythm.
I touched this in the first post too, and it is important to choose the environment that is natural for ourselves. Emotions occur when we encounter people, environment, and information etc. Sometimes it might be necessary to leave a workplace or break up with specific friends or partners.
Perhaps it is very common for many people, I easily get others’ emotions and lose sense of myself. If feels like walking with many tuning folks around my berry. I would love to explore this topic deeply, so I will keep this part for the next post. :)
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In my opinion, emotions also need to be digested and eliminated. Let’s poop it out. I would like to share some tips that I found helpful when feeling difficult emotions. Those are like an ointment and not the ultimate solutions, but it’s helpful to have tips when feeling the emotional stuck!
-Irritation: Move the body until slightly sweat. Twist the body. Walking in the nature or taking the bath also helpful.
-Upsetting: Take a piece of paper and write everything down without limitations. It can be a drawing. Write and write until no words come out. Say something like “I take my time to think about it, and I don’t have nothing to say anymore. Thank you. “Then ball up the paper and throw it away.
-Grief: Cry like a baby. If it is hard to cry, find a movie or music that are sad. After crying, drink a lot of water, and take bath to rejuvenate the body. Eat something makes you happy.
-Fear: Deep breath. Remember the own breath and the rhythm of it. If it’s possible, take a tiny action for the fear. Like 1mm. Sometimes it is just a mind that is afraid of the unknown, and once we take an action, the fear may disappear.
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Ultimately, I believe emotions have such amazing power. We get so inspired by emotional songs and movies. So it is my dream to transform all the emotions in the world into songs, drawings, and any kinds of art. My goal is to catch emotions before it gets stuck and utilize the power for the change!
Thank you for taking your time. :)
With love,
Kyoko
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